Password Store is the answer, if you don’t need passkey support. You can be sure it can’t be sold. It’s the golden middle: not self hosted, but not owned by anyone.

You can find some options in https://european-alternatives.cloud/en

I’m trying to switch away from Tailscale due to recent changes in management I’ve heard of, but their service is soo easy to use and magicdns is really useful for me